Learning To Love The Woman In The Mirror
Part of the adventure in this new season is discovering who I am. I have spent much of my life trying to be who other people are or who I think someone else wants me to be. This has caused me to come to a place where I really don’t know who I am in many ways.
Shopping is overwhelming because I have to constantly ask myself, “Do I like this or am I trying to be someone else or please others?”
I have had to ask the Holy Spirit to help me discern my motives for the things I do.
Since my children have gone to college and I am in an empty house, I have found I do not even know how to answer some of the simplest questions about what I like and do not like.
I feel like the character, Julia Roberts plays in the movie, “The Runaway Bride”. In this movie, this woman becomes every man she is engaged to. She likes the same activities they do, she dresses the way their lifestyle calls them to be dressed and she even likes eggs the way they like them made. By the time she is does not even know what she really likes and what she does not. She ends up going on a little journey to find out who she is and what she likes before getting married.
I have been taking some dates with myself. I am trying different foods, clothes, and activities. I am really trying to learn who the woman I see in the mirror is.
Sometimes we have to break away from the outside voices and spend some time with ourselves.I am not talking about a New Age approach to finding myself, but learning about the woman God created. Click To Tweet
I think many of us have spent an immense amount of time and energy trying to impress others and we have lost sight of who we really are.
I want to know how God has created me. I want to love and appreciate that woman. I want to be content and thankful for who God has made me to be and to know the truth that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I want to discover the unique and special qualities in me even though they may be wrapped up in a very simple and quirky design.
I have struggled with this in deep ways over the years. The lie that has been the biggest obstacle to get over for me is the one that says, “I am not good enough.”
“I am not good enough to keep my husband’s attention.”
“I am not good enough to write this blog post.”
“I am not good enough to be the mom I want to be.”
“I am not good enough and I do not measure up to those around me.”
Do any of you struggle with this or am I the only one?
I was wrestling with this one day and I heard God say to me, ” When you put yourself down. you are putting me down and telling me that what I created was not good.”
How I have longed to see myself as I God sees me!
Why do we spend so much time beating ourselves up and tearing ourselves down? This hurts God. It causes Him to grieve.
I am thankful for these moments I am able to take to discover the special, unique, and quirky girl God created.
I am thankful I am learning to love and appreciate who He has made me to be.
There are still things I wish were different. I wish my body looked a little different but I am thankful to God for giving me a husband who loves me and builds me up.
I wish all my senses worked perfectly but I am sincerely grateful for the process I have gone through with my hearing. I am a better person because of it.
I wish I was a little smarter in some areas and more talented in others, but I am thankful for the love in my heart for others and the sensitive spirit I have. I know God uses that to show Himself to others.
I want to encourage you as you spend time with God, to ask Him for His eyes to see yourself the way He sees you. I pray we will all build each other up in the Lord, instead of picking each other apart. I pray we will not compete to be the best all the time, but that we would bring out the best in each other. Click To TweetIn Jesus Name!
I would LOVE it if each one of you would share one quality or characteristic you love about yourself like I did in this post.
Love this, Desiree! You caused me to stop and really think…what do I love about myself? Finally thought of my hopefulness. I love that God has put that within me! Thanks for your encouragement! 💛
Thank you Julie!! I am so thankful you were able to think about these things. We spend so much time thinking about what we don’t like and we miss the wonderful ways God made us! Thank you for sharing!!
Hi Desiree! Live your blog! I love that I have the gift of compassion!
Hi Karen! Thank you so much for coming over here! I love that God gave you the gift of compassion. It is something the world needs more of! You are a blessing!!
Great post! BOOM quote: ” When you put yourself down. you are putting me down and telling me that what I created was not good.” That is a powerful realization! It is so true! I must remember it. Two things things (they are connected!) I love about myself are the joy God’s has given me and my smile. The lightheartedness has a way of making people feel at ease and included and a warm smile conveys love and acceptance. These allow me to share Jesus without saying a word.
Hi Patti!Thanks for coming over! That realization was very humbling for me. It was a breakthrough moment for me. I love those things about you too and I am blessed to know you!
Oh, if only we could all see ourselves the way God sees us! I’d guess that everyone struggles with being “enough” in one way or another. So grateful that we serve a God who says HE is enough so we don’t have to worry about it (even though we often still do, speaking for myself).
This brought tears to my eyes because I felt like I was pouring out my own view of myself. I struggle so much to just be myself and not the woman everyone else expects me to be. I think that’s why I hide away so often–being who they want exhausts me!
One thing I love about myself? I honestly need to evaluate that. I’m not sure there is one thing I love, but I am going to commit to praying to see myself as He does!
Thank you for sharing Sabrina!! I will be praying for you! Make sure you come back and share that one thing 😉
I am a mother of three young children and I started asking myself that same question this year. Learning to love who Jesus created is on my goal list for 2018. Thanks for sharing!
Hi Sarah! Praying for you! Feel free to come back here and share!
This line: I have been taking some dates with myself. I am trying different foods, clothes, and activities. I am really trying to learn who the woman I see in the mirror is.
What a great idea! My mom died almost 3 years ago and suddenly I didn’t know who I was without her. Now I’m learning about the real me at almost 60!
This post was a sweet affirmation. Thank you!
Hi Joy! I am praying for you, my friend! Thank you so much for sharing!! I would love to hear about your journey!
This really hit my heart! This is something I struggle with every day but praying and working on turning around the negativity. Thank you for reminding me to keep telling myself to love myself for who I am and who God made me be. 🙂
Hi Heidi! I think turning around the negativity is one of the hardest things. Feel free to send me an email or put in a prayer request if you are having a hard day. It is important to have peopel around you who build you up and pray for and with you!!